Femonster

Two twenty-something feminists fighting patriarchy one blogpost at a time

50 notes &

You should never feel like you’ve been convinced to have sex, and you should never feel like you’re doing the convincing. You want partners-one-night-stands or long-term relationships-who want to have sex with you as much as you want to have sex with them. The culturally established “no means no” is too low a bar. Only yes means yes. And I’m not talking about an “I guess we could…” or an “I don’t really care….” or an “Only if you really want to….” or a “Might as well…” I’m talking about an enthusiastic, excited, sustained “Yes!” Are those “yesses” less frequent than the non-committal, hesitant “not-nos?” Yeah, they are, but it’s worth it to know that the people you’re fooling around with really want to fool around with you, too.

Alcohol clouds everyone’s decision-making abilities, but it doesn’t make us deaf. Even at frat row, bar crawls, or crowded house parties, you need to listen for that “Yes!” And you need to be saying it too! If you’re a “Yes!” and your partner is a “Yes!”, then I revert to my original advice: be safe, have fun. Consent is not a traditionally sexy concept, but I absolutely guarantee you that two enthusiastic, excited, sustained “yesses” is what it’s all about.

Emily Heist Moss, "You Can Get Laid Without Being a Jerk"

Filed under sex yes means yes no means no YES coercion feminism combating rape culture

  1. feministsunitedoncampus reblogged this from femonster
  2. sociolab reblogged this from shannonwest
  3. hanuueshe reblogged this from cornerof5thandvermouth
  4. andromeda-maria23 reblogged this from lindsay-quit-lollygagging
  5. ratracex reblogged this from shannonwest
  6. notaskingforpermission reblogged this from femonster
  7. vaguelyhuman reblogged this from asherlinn
  8. neptunesspatula reblogged this from shannonwest
  9. sexy-sky reblogged this from cornerof5thandvermouth
  10. natellite reblogged this from cornerof5thandvermouth
  11. cornerof5thandvermouth reblogged this from asherlinn
  12. asherlinn reblogged this from shannonwest
  13. shannonwest reblogged this from femonster
  14. b-welcome reblogged this from femonster
  15. myfavoriteslut reblogged this from femonster
  16. femonster posted this