3,937 notes & September 12, 2012 TW: Abuse - How to not derail discussions about domestic violence. Times when it's appropriate to say "men can be abused too!":When someone states that men cannot be abused. Times when it's appropriate to say "men can be abused too!":When someone states that a woman cannot be an abuser and that a man cannot be a victim. Times when it's appropriate to say "men can be abused too!":When someone states that "only women" can be victims. Times when it's NOT appropriate to say "men can be abused too!":When people are discussing domestic violence and the victim happened to be a woman. Times when it's NOT appropriate to say "men can be abused too!":When a woman is discussing her experiences with being a victim of abuse.