Posts tagged music
Posts tagged music
Bad Song from 2009: Blame It by Jamie Foxx and T-Pain
You know what’s a dick move? Getting a girl drunk to have sex with her. If you can’t get girls to sleep with you unless they’re falling-on-the-floor wasted, the problem is you. I like to call this one the Date Rape Song.
Now here’s a thing that is important to distinguish: there is a huge difference between drunk sex and rape. If you have consent before you start to drink, or if your partner is lucid enough to give consent, whatever. Not to say that anyone can’t change their mind about consent midway through. If they are so absolutely plastered that they’re nearly unresponsive, that’s rape. There’s no two ways about it. Especially considering, legally, someone intoxicated over the legal blood alcohol content threshold cannot actually give consent. If you are intentionally getting someone drunk to have sex with them when you are not certain whether they would have consented before, you are committing a premeditated rape. And maybe I’m taking this seriously, but I should! This is a HUGE problem with our culture, especially with young people, and this song is only furthering the impression that alcohol is the way to get a woman to fuck you. Real men—and women—don’t need to get someone plastered to seduce them. Let’s look at some lyrics.
Fill another cup up
feelin’ on your butt—what?
you don’t even care now, I was unaware how fine
you were before my buzz set in.
Ew, right? And he also talks about how this girl says she usually doesn’t, but he can tell she wants it and is just saying she won’t have sex with him because she doesn’t want to seem easy. Which is kind of slut-shaming AND rapey. There is something wrong with just about every line of this song so I strongly recommend you read the lyrics.
If someone is not strongly and widely chastised for using “I’ll rape a pregnant bitch and call it a threesome” in song lyrics, then our society has a giant fucking problem.
When will misogynistic and homophobic ranting and raving result in meaningful repercussions in the entertainment industry? When will they be treated with the same seriousness as racist and anti-Semitic offenses? While an artist who can barely get a sentence fragment out without using homophobic slurs is celebrated on the cover of every magazine, blog and newspaper, I’m disheartened that any self-respecting human being could stand in support with a message so vile.
As journalists and colleagues defend, excuse and congratulate ‘Tyler, the Creator,’ I find it impossible not to comment. In any other industry would I be expected to tolerate, overlook and find deeper meaning in this kid’s sickening rhetoric? Why should I care about this music or its “brilliance” when the message is so repulsive and irresponsible? There is much that upsets me in this world, and this certainly isn’t the first time I’ve drafted an open letter or complaint, but in the past I’ve found an opinion – some like-minded commentary – that let me rest assured that my outrage, my voice, had been accounted for. Not this time.
If any of the bands whose records are held in similar esteem as Goblin had lyrics littered with rape fantasies and slurs, would they be labeled hate mongers? I realize I could ask that question of DOZENS of other artists, but is Tyler exempt because people are afraid of the backlash? The inevitable claim that detractors are being racist, or the brush-off that not “getting it” would indicate that you’re “old” (or a faggot)? Because, the more I think about it, the more I think people don’t actually want to go up against this particular bully because he’s popular. Who sticks up for women and gay people now? It seems entirely uncool to do so in the indie rock world, and I’ll argue that point with ANYONE.
No genre is without its controversial and offensive characters- I’m not naive. I’ve asked myself a thousand times why this is pushing me over the edge. Maybe it’s the access to him (his grotesque twitter, etc). Maybe it’s because I’m a human being, both a girl and a lesbian. Maybe it’s because my mom has spent her whole adult life working with teenage girls who were victims of sexual assault. Maybe it’s because in this case I don’t think race or class actually has anything to do with his hateful message but has EVERYTHING to do with why everyone refuses to admonish him for that message.
It is not without great hesitation and hand wringing that I enter into the discourse about Tyler, the media who glorifies and excuses misogyny and homophobia, and the community of artists that doesn’t seem remotely bothered by it. I can only hope that someone reading this might be inspired to speak out. At the very least, I will know that my voice is on record.
This. Read this. I heard “Yonkers” by Tyler the Creator the other day and thought it was pretty sick (as in cool) but then I heard the rest of the album and thought it was pretty sick (as in completely fucked up). I honestly don’t know what to think. He’s causing a stir and apparently people love that shit, but why? I agree with everything Sara has said here. What the fuck, world?
i actually haven’t listened to Tyler the Creator. i heard all of this criticism and i read a few of his lyrics. they made me angry so i decided that i didn’t want to listen to his music because it would just be upsetting. however i think that everything Sara says can be applied to many musicians. its scary how much people can get away with in terms of homophobia and misogyny. it needs to stop.
I’m making a playlist and so far it has
- “Flirting” by Jess Klein
- “When I Was A Boy” by Dar Williams
- “Respect” by P!nk
- “18 Wheeler” also by P!nk
- “I Am Woman” by Helen Reddy
And that is all. And I only really really like the first two songs on the list. So that’s…
Here is a good playlist via lmiddletonart.
That’s just off the top of my head…
For those of you that don’t know, a friend of ours (lmiddletonart) is trying to put together a playlist of songs that send positive messages about women’s bodies and address political female body issues.
So far we have:
Blood in the Boardroom-Ani Difranco
Map of Tasmania-Amanda Palmer
Whip My Hair-Willow Smith
Armpit Hair-Alix Olson
Work That-Mary J. Blige
I Am Not My Hair-India.Arie
Any other suggestions?
Top 5: Reasons to Keep Your Girlfriend Away from Lilith Fair
Ask Men managed to put together the most misogyinistic list of reasons why you should prevent your girlfriend from spending the day (most of them are only a day long event, not the weekend long event AskMen talks about) enjoying herself with like-minded women. I will save you all from having to read the list and summarize it myself.
5. She’ll discover new and terrible music to torture you with all summer.
Women are incapable of making good music (exception:Mary J. Blige), especially independent artists. There is a reason the radios won’t play more than two female artists in a row.
4. If her friend bails, she might try to take you.
Your girlfriend has no friends or only has friends who hate feminism, so she is going to drag you to something that she knows you don’t want to go to. You don’t want to go to this because you are a MAN and men hate anything that women produce.
3. She’s not a kid anymore.
Women don’t want their male partners to ever have any fun, so you should prevent your female partner from having any fun. This is a recipe for a healthy relationship.
2. There’s no need for a “women’s music festival” anymore.
Patriarchy is over! Let’s celebrate by going to a music festival that celebrates both men and women (but men more so and does not include people of other genders).
1. She’ll embarass you with her “at Lilith” stories.
You should never be subjected to actually listening to your female partner (or any woman for that matter). Also your girlfriend tells really bad stories about nothing.
Clearly AskMen.com is very progressive. They are beyond patriarchy, yet really want men to be in control. And there image of women makes ME sad to be one. We sound so boring according to them. So please, go to Lilith Fair (if you can afford it/have time off for it, which I don’t) and if your boyfriend tells you not to go please stop dating him.